Advice for a Brainy 16 Yr. Old

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I was born not knowing and have had only a little time to change that here and there. –Richard P. Feynman

When Ben turned 16, his mother (my good friend) asked people to give him life-advice by snail-mail.  I recently found a copy of what I wrote and thought I’d share it will you below:

Dear Ben,

I’ve known you since you were eight years old and I know two things about you. You use big words and you get things others miss. Big words are easier to come by than most people think, you just read a few thick books.

But seeing the invisible, now that could be a full-fledged super-power. So here is my advice to you–  find one big question to answer. Look for questions that intrigue you and explore them until you can pick one to work on until you answer it.  Then share it with others who have been trying to answer that same question. Here’s an example of what I mean.  Gregor Mendel, the man who ended up studying heredity using peas was initially interested in a million things.  But he wanted to see something no one else saw or had ever seen before.  So he checked out the most intriguing questions in the Science of his day. It turned out nobody knew how heredity worked. So this is what he decided to figure out. He did not stop there of course. He shared his findings with other Natural Scientists. The world needs people who see what the rest of us miss– like you, but more than that, we need you to help us figure out the world. I don’t mean to lecture you or leave you with one big chore.  Just know I believe in you this way and I thought you should know.

 Happy Birthday and all the best as you turn 16!

If you’ve ever “just-known” things– Carl Jung called this innate just-knowing “intuition”, my advice to Ben could pertain to you.  Let me know if you try it– I don’t expect to hear from you for a long time.  My advice to Ben takes years to follow through– I know, I try some days.

If you’re not sure what I’m writing about– read on.  My 6 year-old wrote Ben the following:

I can’t give you much advice because… I don’t know what to say.  You have lived more than I.  So give yourself the advice you want to hear and let’s pretend it was from me!

Your (smaller than you) Friend

Advice for the First Day of Summer– How To Be (More) Creative

A while back I wrote a series titled “Living the Creative Life”.   I’m reading it again for inspiration and thought I’d share it with you.  Check out the advice these amazing people dish out:

I’m also reading (sometimes at the same time– does multi-reading count as multi-tasking?)  Creativity researcher Keith Sawyer’s Explaining Creativity which summarizes current findings about how Creativity works.  Sawyer has a new book out as well, Group Genius, but I thought I’d read his stuff in chronological order. In Explaining Creativity, Sawyer makes recommendations for anyone wanting to be (more) Creative.   Check out his list below:

  1. Make sure that you are doing something you love.  Creativity takes years of hard work and dedication.
  2. Get involved with a group of like-minded people, share ideas and collaborate.
  3. Don’t worry about who gets credit.  When everyone genuinely collaborates, everyone ends up being more creative.
  4. Build on past ideas, whether or not they are yours.  Stay on top of what everyone else is doing, and be open to inspiration from other people’s ideas.
  5. Create a large network of colleagues, and stay in touch constantly.  Put yourself at the center of a creativity web.
  6. Don’t expect the solution to come fully forged in a flash of insight.  Creativity takes time and involves many small sparks of insight, which you need to work hard at weaving together.
  7. Put yourself in an environment that rewards failure.  Creativity is risky;  successful creative people are also the ones who fail most often. 
  8. Creativity is inefficient.  Don’t expect every idea and every project to pan out.  Know when to cut your losses and move on. 

This to do list is a bit overwhelming especially when summer has just begun.

The cure?  Turn back to simplicity.

So this first day of summer, here’s MY one line advice to you–

Just get to work baby!

Want to be Creative? Just Get to Work

Check out the link below to listen to Public Radio International’s interviews with novelist Isabel Allende, artist Chuck Close and a famous playwright, about working creatively.

Enjoy!

Spark: More Stories About Getting to Work – Studio 360.

Gibberish to Original with A Pen? It Works!

I few years ago I ran across playwright Julia Cameron’s advice to all artists in her classic book Finding Water.  She says,

In order to retrieve your creativity, you need to find it. I ask you to do this by an apparently pointless process I call the Morning Pages. Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning.

There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages– they are not high art. They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only.

The first time I tried this practice the result felt huge to me.  By the third day of whining and writing gibberish of all sorts I came across an idea about myself that shocked me.  Before I had time to think about or edit my writing, I wrote,

I used to be creative. At least I thought I was creative– for some reason,  just like some people think they are born lucky.  But I haven’t had a novel thought in years!  My creativity has wilted beyond recognition for lack of tending and I don’t know if I am creative anymore…

My hand wrote and I read the words after they were in ink on paper. I read them as if a good friend who knew me well had written them. The message  practically slapped me in the face and after a stunned long moment, woke me to action.   The very next day I took off for my favorite coffee shop and planned my creative re-birth in bullet points.  The following weeks I followed through on my plan.

Two weeks ago I restarted writing pages of long-hand dribble.  But this time I’m writing seven pages instead of just three.  The Pulitzer prize-winning author of A Visit from the Goon Squad, Jennifer Egan does this everyday to open her mind.  This time around I sheppard my stream-of-consciousness writing to stay near the topic of creativity, history and personal memories.  If I start to complain about my headache I redirect a little never stopping the flow of words.  So far it’s working well to open up my mind, as if my thoughts are dropping their usual shyness and dying to interact with the world.

I’ll keep you posted on my progress!

Twelve Great Literary Ladies, Twelve Valuable Lessons for the Writing Life– Guest Post by Nava Atlas

This wonderful piece first appeared a few days ago on SheWrites.com.  Nava Atlas has kindly agreed to this re-post on Creating Brains. Enjoy!

Learning how to stay disciplined, grappling with doubt, failure, and rejection, finding one’s voice, struggling to stay solvent—we’ve all dealt with these issues. It’s comforting to know that Charlotte Brontë, George Sand, Louisa May Alcott, and others did, as well. But in the end, it’s not so much about experiencing these obstacles that matters, but overcoming them. The twelve authors I focus on in my new book, The Literary Ladies’ Guide to the Writing Life, did just that, with much grace and determination.

In this book, the writing life is explored through the experiences of these classic women authors. Delving into their letters, journals, and memoirs, I found certain challenges were just as universal among those who eventually became literary icons as they are among today’s writing women, whether seasoned or aspiring. Here are twelve snippets of wisdom I gleaned from each of the Literary Ladies I’ve grown to know and admire:

Don’t be overly modest. In popular imagination, Jane Austen is a demure, frilly cap-wearing artiste, hiding her writing efforts under a blotter. In truth, her family recognized her talent and were invested in seeing her work in print, as was she. Austen was as keen on enjoying monetary rewards and finding an audience as the next writer—male or female. “I cannot help hoping many will feel themselves obliged to buy it,” she said of Sense and Sensibility. Of her most iconic female character, Elizabeth Bennett, she wrote, “how I shall be able to tolerate those who do not like her…I do not know.” Perhaps we ascribe false modesty to our literary role models to feel better about our own.

Honor the money you earn by writing. Louisa May Alcott was determined to make a living as a writer at a time when it was challenging enough for women to earn a living wage. She accounted for every penny earned and spent, and always tried to save for a rainy day. Once she became wealthy, after decades of toil, she wrote that she found her “best success in the comfort my family enjoy; also a naughty satisfaction in proving that it was better not to ‘stick to teaching’ as advised, but to write.”

Don’t sit idly by while your manuscript is being submitted. Keep working, like Charlotte Brontê did, as her unsuccessful first novel, The Professor, made its rounds. What she busied herself with was Jane Eyre, which found favor quickly and was an immediate sensation upon publication. Fortunately, she didn’t allow the “chill of despair” that set into her heart when her first effort “found acceptance nowhere, nor any acknowledgment of merit” quash her dreams of becoming an author. The Professor was published only after her death.

The only way to find your true voice is to write, write, and write some more. Willa Cather accepted that beginning writers, herself included, go through a stage of florid, overwrought excess. And the only thing to do is “to work off the ‘fine writing’ stage…I knew even then it was a crime to write like I did.” The only remedy is to “write whole books of extravagant language to get it out.” What you’re left with, once you’re no longer “smothered in your own florescence” is your own sharp, true voice and vision.

Guard your time jealously. Especially when we’re working on something that isn’t yet earning money, it’s easy to let ourselves off the hook and say yes to every request and any invitation that comes our way. But if you don’t value your writing time, others won’t either. Edna Ferber was a model of self-discipline. Heed her advice: “The first lesson to be learned by a writer is to be able to say, ‘Thanks so much. I’d love to, but I can’t. I’m working.’”

You can’t grow as a writer without taking risks. Madeleine L’Engle observed that “We are encouraged only to do that which we can be successful in.” How true for so many women, who don’t want to risk failure, to be anything other than good girls and A students. But L’Engle reminds us that “Risk is essential. It’s scary…Writers will never do anything beyond the first thing unless they risk growing.”

Keep rejection to yourself and don’t let it stop you. L.M. Montgomery experienced her fair share of rejection before the success of Anne of Green Gables: “At first I used to feel dreadfully hurt when a story or poem…came back, with one of those icy little rejection slips. But after a while I got hardened to it and did not mind. I only set my teeth and said, ‘I will succeed.’” Montgomery didn’t feel that she needed to share her “rebuffs and discouragements” with the world, but was determined to just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Don’t be afraid that you’ll run out of things to say. Anaïs Nin recognized that within the fervent writer, there is an endless supply of material, if you allow yourself to go there: “The deeper I plunge, the more I discover. There is…no limit to the acrobatic feats of my imagination.” Brenda Ueland, author of the 1934 classic If You Want to be a Writer concurred: “If you are to be a writer who writes, you will never be finished…always there will be something more to write.”

Be passionate about writing—and living. Why do women live and write in such measured ways? George Sand wrote more than seventy novels, plus scores of plays, essays, and articles, all the while enjoying scads of lovers, traveling, and cross-dressing. She was a conflicted mother, but a doting grandmother. She never did anything by halves, in life or art: “I have a purpose in view, a task before me, and, if I may use the word, a passion.” Let’s all use that word more often.

Daily life is difficult, filled with disruptions, and occasional tragedy. Write anyway. Harriet Beecher Stowe  lost four of her seven children at various stages of her life; despite crushing grief, writing apparently kept her sane, and definitely kept her family solvent. Though she bemoaned constant daily disruptions, she vowed to write a book that would change the world. This she did by devoting “about three hours per day in writing … I have determined not to be a mere domestic slave…” The book that shook the status quo, of course, was Uncle Tom’s Cabin.

Don’t let lack of confidence stop you from writing. Edith Wharton struggled with lack of self-confidence, believing she would never be taken seriously in literary circles. She started by writing nonfiction, then tiptoed into short stories, always amazed by the doors opening to her. “My long experimenting had resulted in two or three books which brought me more encouragement than I had ever dreamed of obtaining,” she wrote. In her early days as a writer, little could she have imagined that Henry James would become one of her BFFs, valuing her friendship and correspondence as much as she did his.

Embrace the inner critic. Virginia Woolf’s inner critic was active and noisy. She allowed her doubts to bubble to the surface in her journal, but they drove her to do better, rather than crush her spirit. In one paragraph she mocked her own writing, “The thing now reads thin and pointless; the words scarcely dint the paper.” A few sentences later, she says, “…I am about to write something good; something rich and deep and fluent…” Similarly, when experiencing self-doubt, many of the other Literary Ladies let the inner critic urge them to do better. Inspired by the Literary Ladies, I’ve come to think of my inner critic as a wise editor or an honest friend who won’t let me do less than the very best I can at the moment.

Visit The Literary Ladies’ Guide to the Writing Life online.

Living the Creative Life — James Watson’s Take

How do you live the creative life? I’ve gleaned tips from some of my favorite Creators. For five days I’m writing about these insightful suggestions.  Today is technically Day 6– but I couldn’t help adding one more day of tips. Yesterday I wrote about Eleanor Roosevelt’s advice.

James D. Watson, co-discoverer of the double helix structure of DNA, recently wrote a book packed with advice for young scientists: Avoid Boring People and Other Lessons from a Life in Science . But it’s more than a how-to book.  It’s a great life story. I tried to read it to my children this morning (they lost interest rather quickly,  but that’s another post for another day).

Check out his advice below:

  1. Knowing “why” (an idea) is more important than learning “what” (a fact).
  2. New ideas usually need new facts.
  3. Think like your teachers not your peers.
  4. Seek out bright as opposed to popular friends.
  5. The sooner you narrow your creative interests,  the better.
  6. Keep your intellectual curiosity broad.
  7. Work on Sundays.  (More on this: Spending More Time at the Office).
  8. Exercise when you feel intellectually dull.
  9. Have a big objective that makes you feel special.
  10. Always have an audience for your creative work.
  11. Avoid boring people.
  12. Science is highly social.
  13. Leave a project or field before it bores you.
  14. Choose an objective apparently ahead of its time.
  15. Work on problems that take 3-5 years to work out.
  16. Never be the brightest person in the room.
  17. Stay connected to intellectual competitors.
  18. Work with a teammate who is your intellectual equal.
  19. Constantly share what you learn.
  20. Immediately write-up big discoveries.
  21. Travel increases your creative prowess.
  22. Be the first to tell a good story.
  23. Read out-loud what you write.
  24. Two obsessions are one too many.
  25. Don’t take up golf.
  26. Close competitors should publish simultaneously.
  27. Schedule as few appointments as possible.
  28. Never dye your hair or use collagen.

My favorites are #9, #11, #21 and #28.  What do you think?

*Don’t go away yet:  You may have noticed I’ve changed my blog’s look.  What do you think about that?  Is it better?  Worse?  In bad-taste?  Tantalizing?  I’d love to hear your opinion.  If you’re new here… I’d still love to hear what you think about my site, creativity…the Universe!

Living the Creative Life (Part V): Eleanor Roosevelt

How do you live the creative life? I’ve gleaned tips from some of my favorite Creators. For five days I’m writing about these insightful suggestions.  Yesterday I wrote about Jonas Salk’s Advice.

Eleanor Roosevelt wrote a newspaper column without missing a day for over twenty years. She wrote her last “post” only two weeks before her death.  She tackled big issues like racism, war and poverty and weighed in on life’s simplest trials (i.e., not having anything to say at a dinner party).  Roosevelt’s list of accomplishments is long,  from helping found the United Nations to inspiring the women’s rights movement,  but I think one of the most inspiring gifts she left for us is her autobiographical treatise on how to live the creative life,  You Learn by Living.  It’s one of my favorite books of all time,  alongside Benjamin Franklin’s Autobiography.

Check out Roosevelt’s advice on how to court creativity:

  1. Live every experience as deeply as you can.
  2. Sift your book-learning through your own intelligence.
  3. To expose yourself to new ideas make a game of trying to make people talk about their interests.
  4. Listen to people open and with interest.
  5. Surround yourself with the best of human creativity–  the things you surround yourself with sink into your consciousness.
  6. Overcome fear with discipline.
  7. To overcome shyness:  Just stop thinking about yourself.
  8. Freedom comes with achievement.
  9. You have all the time in the world— just like everyone else.  But you need to schedule it as you please.
  10. Learn to work around noise, disorder and chaos.
  11. For a sharp mind take care of your general health.
  12. Avoid burdening your spouse or children by your lack of curiosity and dull mind — stay curious and sharp into old age.
  13. Choose hope over fear.
  14. Choose trying over not trying.
  15. Justify your existence.  Learn by living.

My favorites are #3, #5, #8 and #12.  How about you?  What do you think?

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